Ian Liu

昨天cctv，上海电视，都放出了5.12震后孩子们坚强的片段，媒体又在qj民意了。事实上，我绝对不相信这些孩子能够在短短的1年内，就敢于面对这个事实。那些坚强的外壳不过是这些孩子们在善良的迎合社会，媒体的意愿罢了。这么巨大的阴影哪有那么容易走出来，更何况这些小孩。

创造个心理环境，让这些孩子自然的表达真实的情绪，就可以了。

此生25载，被英语折磨数载至今
本可以吃到10USD午餐，因英语挫只能吃10RMB套餐。
恨啊~
恨啊！
于此立誓，15月内，必fluent直至以假乱真

喝咖啡
如果我再年纪长一点，或者更加中国一点，也许我会写茶，但我不是，所以也就不作不矫情了。

咖啡，从我10+岁始，喝了第一口吐了，以后不敢喝，装模做样的喝，勉强扮大人的喝，掺水喝，热衷喝，学习讲究的喝，上瘾的喝，空腹反胃的喝，到现在每天早上就喝，随便抓来一包速溶的喝。咖啡，只是有点奇怪味道的饮料，却对我有意义。

因为你喝咖啡，所以走到哪里都会有歇脚的去处，都有你能接受的饮料，咖啡店无处不在。又因为爱好者众，所以咖啡店成了个人思想者的载体，观察文化，体会文化，鉴赏个人风格等等。关于咖啡就写到这吧，因为今天早上很忙。

Paul
每天早上一杯咖啡，是因为我想停一下，停一下想想今天怎么样，明天会怎么样。今天早上喝咖啡却是因为我想躲起来。我还算幸运，因为有很好的manager - Paul, 但是最近却需要他花很多的时间在我的项目上，I feel guilty, 因为我非常非常想帮他，但又力不从心，无能为力，这个项目require tech domain knowledge too much. 又因为我是一个对技术永远无法开窍的人，从小学4年级开始学计算机，直到现在，已经14年了，仍然无法理解for循环是怎么运作的。该死，我为什么会这样 :(

可怜的Paul，可恨的我，喝杯咖啡去帮你！

when a man loves a woman
Michael Bolton

when a man loves a woman           当男人爱上女人
can't keep his mind on nothin'else       他无法假装若无其事
he'd trade the world                           他会用全世界来交换
for the good thing he's found             只为了他找到的好东西
if she is bad,he can't see it                  即使她很坏，他也看不见
she can do no wrong                          她不会有错
turn his back on his best friend           他会背弃他最要好的朋友
if he puts her down                            如果他已爱上她

when a man loves a woman                 当男人爱上女人
spend his very last dime                      他会花光最后一毛钱
trying to hold on to what he needs       努力维持他的需要
he'd give up all his comforts                他会放弃所有的享乐
sleep out in the rain                            睡在大雨中
if she said that's the way                     只要她说那是必要的

it ought to be                                     嗯，
when a man loves a woman                这个男人爱上了女人
i give you everything i've got               我给了你一切
trying to hold on                                努力维系
to your precious love                         你那珍贵的爱
baby, please don't treat me bad         宝贝，请别亏待我
when a man loves a woman                当男人爱上女人
deep in his soul                                  在他的灵魂深处
she can bring him such misery             她能使他凄惨落魄
if she is playing him for a fool             如果她欺骗愚弄他
he's the last one to know                    他会是最后一个知道的人
loving eyes can never see                   恋爱中的人是盲目的

yes, when a man loves a woman         当男人爱上女人
i know exactly how he feels                 我感同身受
'cause baby,baby,baby                       因为宝贝
when a man loves a woman...              你是我的全世界


总觉得翻译的意境怪怪的~~~~~

Q1: 出租车司机，载客到浦东机场，是选择空车返回还是等待载客返回涅？

偶这段时间每次都问司机，回答均不一样，跟最初的判断很大出入。我感觉司机大哥们对浦东机场的判断应该是差不多的，堵或者不堵，程度也应该相近,公共交通的服务质量，平均效益等。但是很明显，司机们对这个问题，采取的态度和做法，完全不同。我需要更多的数据做判断鸟。

房子，09年底也许是个房产分水岭，现在应该抽出来更多时间考察、准备了，因为它的确就是刚性中的刚性需求，也不需要去理会另一些说的，国人观念问题之类的，日子开门７件事，柴米油盐酱醋茶（daily life is NOT easy），除非是一个自由人，可以不用去考虑这些事情。

成熟小区，当然是首选，商业服务，教育，医疗卫生，文体，金融，市政等等，麻雀虽小也要五脏俱。也可以这样概括，小区宜人，社区优雅。浦东浦西之争，呵呵，我性格１，忠于浦东安静，宽敞的环境，相对独立的空间很重要，浦东成熟小区，价格在1.5 – 2.5w之间，房型面积合适的，总价在170 – 250w之间，就一个字儿，忒贵。加上Y同学始终想在浦东，照顾父母也方便，常言说父母在不远行，只是可怜我的家人了，一独立就跑了。我性格２：喜欢浦西的热闹，ceasar, jerry同学家附近都不错，成熟的有点吵闹，不过热热闹闹也不错，房子就不一而足了。性格分裂，真够郁闷的，呵呵。

最近几个朋友同时间提到，钱引起来的问题。但有时候，事儿还真跟钱没啥关系。穷是一种心态，若一辈子坚持自己是穷人，拥有大量金钱也没用。

十年寒窗，十年苦干，再加上十足十的运气，才能有一份事业，别把事情看得太容易，大多数人只能有一份职业，借之糊口，辛劳一生，有多少人敢说他的工作是事业？

所有烦恼会不多不少永远追随，只不过学识涵养可以使一个人更加理智冷静地分析处理这些难题而已。生活中无论有什么闪失，统统是自己的错，与人无尤，从错处学习改过，精益求精，直至不犯同一错误，从不把过失推诿到他人肩膀上去，免得失去学乖的机会。

人生的很多哲理，看起来很美，实际上很难做到，甚至做不到，因为超过human的能力范围。

譬如，不要在同一个地方跌倒2次，是被说得最多的哲理之一，然后几乎没有能做到这一点的，因为从心理学角度来说，人生宛如一个轮回，我们有一个相对固定的人格结构和关系模式，导致我们会不断地在同一个地方跌倒。并且，能在跌倒多次后斩断这个轮回的，可以说是自己的hero了，而能跌倒一次后就大彻大悟，此后再也不会在这个地方摔跤的人，可能只有神了。

再比如，理解万岁，成了一个最响亮的口号，这也是因为，理解太难。

严于律己，宽以待人，也是一个看起来很美的哲理。不过这个哲理违反了一个最基本的心理学道理，一个人的外部的人际关系，是他的内在关系模式的展现。

按照这个道理，人生么，过把瘾就死了，不要对自己太苛刻，不然很难做到宽以待人。活着么，让家庭和睦，让爱人幸福，让孩子无法无天，让朋友开心，所以对自个儿“好点”。

不过还有些哲理，是一定要恪守的，比如 天道酬勤。

   

现在的小小孩（3-6岁）真是不得了，我那个3岁不到的小弟，偶尔去土豆上自己找喜洋洋灰太郎看，还偶尔讲冷笑话；传说一个6岁小小女孩，一学期换一个男朋友。我是真落伍鸟，小小孩都好牛啊，最近一个5岁小孩，告诉我，皇马踢的好臭 - - 我跟他有同感，但难以启齿，怕被bs，sigh~~~~~

转载一个美文，有同类问题的女同学可以参考一下，男同学更要参考一下，知己知彼，方能..................................................多做家务


                                                                  Now you know why Leonardo is women's favourite?

How do you get a man to do his share of the housework? If you are like most women you've faced this question the hard way: in an argument with your husband. Here's a man's take on this troublesome issue.

It's a rare man who is equally focused on household chores as his wife is. A man will appreciate a clean, orderly house, but he usually won't make the effort to create it.

This doesn't mean that a woman has to do all the housework; it means that she may have to manage many of the household duties (at least for a while), and request her man's participation, while respectfully holding him accountable for what he said he'd do. A woman can rant and rave that men and women should take equal responsibility for housework, but rather than fighting the large-scale household war wouldn't it work better to simply look at what you want done and see how best to communicate and negotiate its completion?

Very few men are raised to be fully responsible for housework, and many men consciously or unconsciously look on housework as "women's work". On the other hand, most men will readily work around the yard, make repairs and complete projects on the weekend or evenings, and it's important that you give your man appreciation for those contributions, too. (In his mind repairs and projects count just as much, or maybe more than housework.)

Most men will take on a few additional chores around the house if they are respectfully asked and not second-guessed and criticized for what they do. They are even more likely to do household chores if they can choose what they do, and do it without being monitored and criticized.

Here's the key: we men want to feel that we are doing housework either because we want to do a task (usually because we are good at), or because we simply want to please our women. Men are much less likely to take on household tasks they prioritize as uninteresting and unimportant. In other words, men are unlikely to do a household task just for the good of the house.

As with most things, housework often comes down to communication. Here are some specific recommendations about how to talk to your man about household chores:
# In a respectful, loving way ask for what you want. Make a clear, specific request about exactly what you want or need. Avoid criticisms and judgments such as, "You never do any housework! You're lazy!" They'll cause a man to feel either ashamed or angered, and neither result will help your cause.
# Present the issue as a problem for which you need help. But, remember: he is not the problem-getting the housework done is the problem. All your man to come up with options and make suggestions.
# Even though you've made a request, leave room for new ideas and a full, honest conversation about housework and related issues. Stay calm, be open and make yourself listen to him, even if you don't agree with what he says.
# Make it personal, e.g. "Honey, it would mean a lot to me if you would clean up the dishes on the nights I cook. Would you be willing to take that on?"
# Be friendly, encouraging and affectionate; engage the heart more than the head.
# Don't call a special meeting to discuss housework; in fact, you're better off keeping the whole conversation low-key. If you call a special meeting, your man is likely to feel it's going to be another "relationship talk", and he will be told what he's doing wrong. He'll put up immediate defenses and tune you out or argue with you. Try talking when you are both engaged in another activity, such as gardening or riding in the car.
# Above all, don't belittle or criticize your man for his failings. Build on all the great things he does, rather than criticizing all he doesn't do.

Don't expect massive changes right away. Men haven't been expected to do much housework over the last several thousand years and we are making a tough transition to the 21st Century's brave new world. Applying these ideas in your household will pave the road for incremental changes and increase your man's participation in housekeeping.

我确定这篇entry一定很杂很乱，因为最近的所做所想都很杂，很mop.

每个人都应该去做的事情，定期按阶段的面对自己，传说中的one on one。上过学的都知道孔姓老师就说了：三省吾身。世界上最应该恪守的就是这些人人都知道的大道理，仔细研究2003-2007牛市中的先锋公司生死薄，很容易的发现80%以上的公司在跟中央政府的政策，体制的博弈中死去了，区别无非是好死和惨死，剩下20%的因素大部分来源于执行力的不足。为什么都这么争先恐后的去死，谁都不知道自个儿做的这点事到最后能不能活下来，但是一生总要去做不论结果，都说创业的死在明天晚上，那么如果是你，在明天中午吃完饭怎么知道晚上再挖一铁锹，井水就出来了，不自个儿经历无法体会。现在每天早上拍死闹钟的那一刻起，老板就欠我一天工资，开始刷牙那一刻，就在想如果我一睁眼就欠几百人一天工资，闹钟也许就不需要了，牙龈又被刷出血了。

为东北地区代理寻找电脑配件渠道，寻寻觅觅，不得法；为东北地区寻游戏点卡渠道，没眉目；为自个儿琢磨赚钱门路... 晚上睡觉千条路，早上起来走原路...

无论怎样，即使是争先恐后的去死，至少也要死在冲锋的路上，就算被流弹憋屈的弄死了，也决不能在原地窝囊的死。